My husband and I went out for dinner last night, and we had fun.
It’s a simple statement, isn’t it? Something so ordinary, so usual … but not for us. Not for quite a while.
We haven’t been able to go out for dinner, because we’ve been living under such strict financial constraints; and while we’ve had fun, at times, it’s always been underpinned by money stress.
Yesterday I had some good news. An insurance company is going to settle a claim in my favour. I had to check that I’d heard my case manager correctly: “So, does this mean I can relax and be happy?” and she laughed: “Yes, it does.”
It’s not like we won the lottery – we’re not talking a huge amount of money, here. However, it will take the pressure off for a while. It means I can take time to recover instead of feeling stressed about not working.
So: we went out to dinner to celebrate, we held hands across the table, we laughed as we drove home, and we had fun.
I am happy.
I recently read this post on signs of a healthy relationship. I forwarded it to my husband with the note: “I think we scored 10/10!” He agreed, but thought we could work on the fun part – though at the time he also said “It’s not surprising we’re not having much fun at the moment.” Money doesn’t make you happy, but not having money and the implications of that can most certainly contribute to making you less happy. Your thoughts?