I’ve named these in a few comments recently, but decided it was time to put the moniker into a more permanent setting: depression goggles – the skewed way we view the world when we’re depressed.
Here are some examples of depression goggles at work in my life recently:
- I have a really good friend with whom I usually have a “phone date” with each weekend, usually for about an hour. She has been away overseas, so we hadn’t chatted for ages. I developed this irrational fear that she would not want to continue our “phone dates” when she came back.
- My partner and I had a talk the other week and sorted out our finances for the year, deciding that we could get by if I only work enough hours to make a certain amount of money. He made a joke about it the other day, and I was gripped by anxiety about our finances, and whether he really had meant what he’d said. It took a second D&M to sort that anxiety out.
People talk about beer goggles which, well – I’m sure I don’t need to explain beer goggles to you! Perhaps I can use the phrase “depression goggles” to help my non-depressed friends understand more fully what I’m living through, or how I may have misinterpreted something they’ve said/done.
On a completely different note, I had lunch last weekend with a very dear friend who’s older than me. I realized that I have always sought her approval – but also that I have always experienced her as a “rose tinted mirror” – she reflects back the best of me.
What are your experiences with “depression goggles”? And do you have any “rose tinted mirror” people in your life?